Perhaps you came here because, like me, you wanted something deeper.

Too many people being careless – on dating apps, at sex parties, in their discourse, in their fics… always the marginalised folks getting hurt the most.

Folks were carelessly splashing around in the shallows, not really knowing what they were doing. You needed to have the clear conversations before striking out for deeper waters. Not cautious or repressed, just thoughtful and considering. Alive to the power of negotiation, of words before deeds.

The intimacy of talking about it.

Here, we can give voice to anything we like without fragility and panic and the foolish idea that talking about sex is a passion killer. We will weave intensity with our words and find out how far they can take us.